My marriage proposal is one of the few things in my life that if I could go back, I wouldn’t change a thing.
No one ever says on their death bed, “I wish I didn’t put so much thought and creativity into the way I proposed to my wife.” It is one of the few moments in life, that you know in advance that you are about to do something that you will never forget. So make sure you pull out all the stops and make it a story you will be proud to share for the rest of your lives.
Here are my do’s and don’ts for a good marriage proposal…
Do make it special: Remember that this is the moment that she has been looking forward to her whole life. She has thought about it, prayed about it, and dreamed about it. Don’t make it a disappointment.
Do be creative: Don’t do the thing where you go to a restaurant and the server brings her a glass of wine with a ring in it, or food with a ring in it, or the dessert with a ring in it and the plate has “Will you marry me?” written in chocolate sauce, or you have the wait staff at Red Robin sing it to her for you. You know what, just stay away from restaurants. You will loose creativity points because it’s all been done in every movie and t.v. show for the past 20 years. Think of something original. And if you can’t think of something original, then Google “Original ideas for marriage proposal.” But just don’t tell anyone.
Don’t text your wedding proposal.
Don’t propose in front of a crowd: Avoid proposing in front of a crowd of people such as at a concert or sporting event,…hmmm maybe at a wedding, that would be kinda funny…no better not do it at a wedding. The bride would hate you taking attention away from her on her day.
Seriously, enough with the sporting event proposals. It seems like every time you go to a professional game you have to put up with some guy with a jersey and a beer in his hand proposing to his girlfriend that he has probably been living with for 7 years anyways. And who keeps agreeing to put these guys on the jumbo-tron anyways? That’s what I want to know. Can we please put someone in charge of these halftime shows that will have the sense to say no when a drunk guy in cargo shorts and flip flops asks to have the microphone and a spot light for 3 minutes so he can propose to the mother of his 3 children??? I am beginning to wonder if NBA players think it is bad luck to play a game without someone getting engaged. What is the deal??? (End rant)
(No wait, rant continues) Do these guys think that the more people that see them propose, the more special it is? Or maybe it’s that this is the one time that they will ever be romantic in their life, so they want to show it off? Or maybe they think that the girl will be too embarrassed to say no in front of 30,000 people.
All I know is that me, and the rest of the 29,999 people are annoyed that you are interrupting our lives to witness your proposal, but we go along and clap when she says yes to be nice, and because we are fans of marriage and are kinda happy for you, but not because we are overly impressed with your creative proposing skills, or because we are so blessed to be part of this experience.
I mean, are you planning on having your wedding at the next home game? Will your wife be returning in 9 months to give birth to your first baby boy during half time? Are we going to see you cutting the cord on the jumbo-tron? No, so why are you thinking that we need to be a part of the proposal?
Here is an idea of who you should propose in front of,…your girlfriend. That’s it. Just you and her. Make it special, make it unique, make it classy, make in intimate and make it personal. Do it somewhere quite where you can share feelings and reflect without distraction.
Don’t just say “Will you marry me?” and that is it: You have to say more than that. Say why you want to marry her. Say what you love about her. Say what you are looking forward to most in your marriage.
Do stay on your knee for more than a few seconds: Again, this is a moment that she has been looking forward to. She has probably envisioned what it will be like to have her soul mate hold her hand, kneel before her and look up into her eyes as he yearns to be with her. Let her have that moment. Let it soak in. Let her enjoy it. When you are on your knee, share your feelings. Compliment her. Express how grateful you are to have found her.
Don’t propose on April Fools day.
Do make sure that she is dressed nice: Propose at a time when you know she will be pleased with the way she looks, especially if you will be taking pictures. You don’t want to put her on the spot at a time when she is dressed casually or just got out of bed, or is coming from a hot yoga class.
Do involve her pet in the proposal: This is great especially if it is a pet she really loves, but don’t involve kids that she is close to. If it doesn’t work out the kids will get confused or think they did something wrong.
Other ideas: Vacation proposals are a good idea. Proposing at a place that is meaningful, like a fist date, or place you met is also a good idea. Picnics or preparing a meal is also a good idea. Giving meaningful gifts such as personal art work (unless you draw like Napoleon Dynamite) is a good idea.
I think airport proposals are cool. Anytime your girlfriend isn’t expecting you to be there, or hasn’t seen you for a while is cool.
Like have a flight attendant tell her the captain wants to see her. And then when she opens the door to the cockpit, you are there on your knee,…with a pilot captain hat on.
Or maybe have TSA at the airport take her to a room because she is smuggling diamonds. When she says she isn’t, they pull out a diamond ring out of her bag and say where did this come from. She will say I have never seen that ring before. Then they will say we need to bring in a specialist to put the ring on your finger to see if it is yours or not. Then you walk in, put the ring on and propose. Then you both fly away on a romantic vacation. I just thought of that as I was typing. That’s actually a pretty good idea. I wish I would have thought of that 10 years ago, lol.
Oh well, if you try it, let me know how it goes. Good luck!!!